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Today I got a second set of holes in my ears. ~~Taking bets on how long it'll take my folks to notice.~~ I lost.

Also read a book on copyright. In related news, people at the individual level are, with rare exceptions, awesome. People in the aggregate, especially the very rich aggregate with no goals other than to make themselves more money, suck donkey balls. I mean, I knew that, but sometimes it's good to be reminded.

Apparently the RIAA's vision of Internet radio is five to seven companies making all the money, instead of thousands of people and companies competing for slices of the pie. And there's the potential for thousands of Internet radio stations—but not given the amount of money that has to be poured into each track to make it playable under RIAA-designed rules, money that traditional radio stations don't have to pay.

In unrelated news, there's this person on Facebook. Let's call her K. We're Internet friends, have been for a while, though lately it seems we only talk when she reposts on Facebook one or another graphic to the effect of "It's 'one nation under God', like it or leave it" and I point out that I'm an atheist who can't and won't leave. And sometimes, like the past few days, I get into arguments with other Facebook friends of hers, for instance let's call her S. K and S are radiating Christian privilege, which I am now tired of attempting to correct, and K has said flat out twice now that she will post what she pleases without regard to whether it hurts me and if I don't like it I should unfriend her.

I miss being friendly with K, though evidence suggests the K-me relationship is not at all important to me. And it feels like unfriending K is letting the Christian privilege win. But phrasing it like that just underlines the lack of importance this relationship has to me. What do y'all think—to unfriend or not to unfriend?

ETA: K's friend D just called me a troll. I feel as though I have conquered an atheist rite of passage. Or possibly an Internet rite of passage that's nothing to do with atheism. \o/?

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Unfriend. What's the point of keeping in touch with someone who only disappoints you.

Thanks for the input.

Unfriend.

*nods* Thanks

You aren't going to change her mind and she's not interested in your friendship enough to make a basic effort. Defriend.

*nods* Thanks.

Severely limit the amount you make yourself miserable for your principles. Invest in positive relationships that fulfill you. Remember, you left the religion that focuses on evangelization.

This is why I love Dreamwidth. It has people like you. :)

:D Thanks!

K and her friends are sure not acting in what I think of as a Christian manner. People like that infuriate me.

Anyway, that's neither here nor there -- they sound like tools. Fuck 'em -- unfriend.

It doesn't sound as though those arguments are serving any useful purpose except to the FIGHT ALL THE INJUSTICES principle you hold. They don't seem to be influencing K, and they do not really seem to contribute to your peace of mind either.

Personally, I don't ever unfriend (unless someone was being abusive, then I'd unfriend, block, and report). But otherwise, it feeds drama, especially people who like to play the victim, and people who post the kind of stuff you're talking about LOVE to play the victim. "Woe is me, we Christians are soooooooooo persecuted." ::rolls eyes::

What I do instead is make filters and filter the person out. Then I'm not reading the stuff that gets under my skin, I'm not posting where that person can read and comment and get under my skin, but I'm not giving them ammunition to feel victimized. I do this on LJ and will on Dreamwidth, too, if it ever comes up.

Filters are your friend.

I wonder how one makes a filter on Facebook. *goes off* Thanks!

Make a list and view that list instead of your news feed. The added bonus is the posts show up in reverse chronological order, without all that "top stories" nonsense, and you don't get the ticker and other annoying distractions you get on the newsfeed. You can also post to just a specific list (or even multiple lists, I think) rather than to all your friends. So from K's POV, you're still friends, you just aren't posting or commenting on her posts anymore.

Thanks!