alexseanchai: 11-round crochet granny square, red center through grape edge (rainbow granny square)
let me hear your voice tonight ([personal profile] alexseanchai) wrote2014-11-19 01:25 pm

let me introduce myself, I'm someone of beer wealth and champagne taste

So there are friending memes and things going around and people might see me around and want to get to know me a little! Therefore, this post. (Which is edited from its initial version, because I decided to turn it into my sticky post.)

I am increasingly posting almost everything under lock instead of publicly. I do not particularly care for this change, but certain persons who I do not care to name make it necessary.

I tend to grant access in sporadic batches, after I have got to know people well enough to recognize your respective handles. I realize this is an approach that, in combination with the previous paragraph, makes it difficult to make friends.

A note about journal rules: Don't be ableist. Don't be racist. Don't be sexist or homophobic or transphobic or or or or. I'm not perfect on any of these issues, I admit, but to the best of your ability, keep the bigotry out of my journal.

I am:

* genderqueer
** I'm agender, leaning third-gender. I used to be genderfluid and might be again, but not now. My pronouns are they/their/them.

* female-assigned-at-birth and generally read female
** My presentation tends to be femme earrings and sometimes necklaces or pendants, and as androgynous as I can manage in everything else.

* lesbian
** Defined as "non-man attracted to non-men".

* gray-asexual
** Multiplayer sex is so not on my priorities list, and solo player isn't often there either. That said, there is this one woman in Pittsburgh who is probably not reading this who, if she said to me "let's you and me horizontal tango", I would break land speed records getting to the assignation. (She's straight, though. It ain't happening.) Also someone across the pond, who knows who they are, and we Have Talked about the subject but we keep Not Talking about the subject and I get the distinct impression it is Not Happening.

* polyamorous
** See above.

* gray-aromantic-fluid
** See above, sort of?

* autistic

* disabled
** Social anxiety disorder, asthma, depression, ADHD. Three contradictory diagnoses wrt my hand pain.

* white
** Half Irish. Fifteen percent English, including (to my sorrow) that one guy from the Mayflower famous for shooting Massachusetts Natives (that is, Miles Standish), and also various relations of major players in the Salem Witch Trials. Ten percent German, eight percent Dad-hasn't-found-those-records-yet, and assorted others nearly all European. Like, my most recent ancestor of color who wasn't also at least half white is rumored to have been Pocahontas's sister. (I suspect that rumor of being invented by that ancestor's descendants for any of various reasons, but that gives you a timeframe.)

* Hellenic polytheist
** I like the phrasing I had of this bullet before I changed it from 'atheist', so I leave it here: "Celticy-Greekish-paganlike cradle-Catholic Unitarian-Universalist okay-fuck-organized-atheism-I-will-totally-go-start-a-nontheist-religion-now atheist".
** In January 2015, Athena spoke to me. It's kind of hard to stay an atheist after having a bunch of knowledge about what a deity wants from one slammed directly into one's brain.
** My devotional journaling is under access lock at [personal profile] alexeigynaix.

* activist
** Mostly my activism is Internet-based, because social anxiety and time/money constraints. But damn it I am still an activist.

* late twenties
** I was born on 6 Gamelion, in the fourth year of the 691st Olympiad, according to HMEPA.
** I like hobbit birthday presents quite as much as the ordinary kind.

* NOT living with my folks anymore!
** WOOOO INDEPENDENCE

* broke

* working full-time for the state government
** Most of my coworkers are of the opinion that since the state is pretending to pay us what we're worth, we should pretend to work to the best of our ability. Between that attitude and the 'drown it in a bathtub' approach to government, it is no fucking wonder our government doesn't work!
** I do not hold that opinion. I should, because three guesses where the fucking hand diagnoses came from, but I don't.

* no longer studying Women's, Gender, and Sexuality Studies at Oregon State University (Ecampus), with minor in Writing
** Used to be going for a minor in Queer Studies, but financial constraints prohibit it. :(

* a writer
** Check out my original fiction, mostly flash-length, and my poetry at Sunbow Publications and [personal profile] alexconall.
** Many novels live in my head. Like, we're talking a dozen or so totally different worlds, some of which have multiple novels.

* a fanficcer
** Most of [archiveofourown.org profile] EllieMurasaki is Supernatural fic, and most of that is flash fic, but there are many other fandoms there as well. Notably absent is Sailor Moon, because I am NOT importing the stories I wrote when I was twelve (if you want to read them that bad, they are on the Wayback Machine, but I am not saying where), but I plan to fix that.

* utterly fascinated by magic and folklore
** I do tarot readings. Entertainment purposes only, of course—which statement is for legal purposes, you understand, because apparently there is no relevant difference between "entertainment" and "religion".
** As soon as I get my set of stamped copper Greek-alphabet oracle discs patinaed up and polished shiny, I will be happy to do divinatory draws with that. Again, entertainment purposes only.
** "When you pray or sacrifice, you usually don't get an immediate response—sometimes you have to wait a few months to see whether the crops come in well or whether you conceive and deliver a healthy baby. When you cast the dice or read the entrails or put a question to the Pythia, you get an answer almost immediately. Interpreting it may take you longer, but at least you know that someone has heard you. Divination, then, more than any other religious act, confirms not only that the gods exist, but that they pay attention to us." —Sarah Iles Johnston, Ancient Greek Divination

* learning knitting and crochet
** See icon? Is my favorite crochet project yet.

* trying to get back into cross-stitch and making jewelry
** I found the thing I want to finish cross-stitching for this Giftmas! I haven't taken it out of the bag yet.
** The problem with trying to make jewelry for sale is I want to keep everything I make.

* trying to get healthier
** Nutrition is hard when you typically think about meals either a week in advance (cooking and all) or an hour later than you meant to eat.
** Exercise is time-consuming and also ow-making.

* seriously overbooked
** Stress is bad for me.

* refusing to let people's poor opinions of me define me


Commenting culture stuff is swiped from [personal profile] silveradept here with some modifications (CC BY-SA 3.0 Unported):

I welcome all of the following types of comments on ANY of my entries:

* Single or two word comments, e.g. , woo!, yay, yes, no, please, thanks, absolutely, agreed, seconded, so much, no way, etc.
* "+1" or Facebook style "like".
* Otherwise brief comments, e.g. single sentences.
* A comment that is a punctuation mark(s) to let me know you read, e.g. a period, an asterisk.
* A comment that is a punctuation mark(s) to express your response, e.g. an exclamation mark or question mark.
* A comment that is an emoticon(s) to express your response, e.g. \o/, <3, :), :(, :-D, :-P, etc.
* Long, wordy comments. Rambling is totally okay.
* Comments and links on related topics.
* Comments on single links, entities, paragraphs, topics, or words in the entry. I throw out a lot of things each entry, and I don't expect anyone to have to come up with a coherent comment on each and every one of them to comment.
* Sequential commentary. It's totally okay to comment about one thing as you read it, then another thing in a separate comment, then a third thing after you've chewed on it for a while and feel ready to talk about it.
* Incoherent comments. It’s all good. I would rather have you here and showing interest,, even if it's just a *flail*, than for you to stay silent because you are afraid or unable to get the perfect comment out.
* Talking amongst yourselves in the comments is fine. I like creating a place where people get to interact!

I also welcome:

* Comments on older entries, access-locked or public.
* Comments on VERY OLD entries, access-locked or public. I have many years of archives.
* Comments from people who are not subscribed to me.
* Comments from people who I’ve never met.
* Comments from people who haven’t talked to me in awhile.
* Comments from people who’ve never talked to me.
* I like knowing the provenance of new commenters. If you're new, I'd love to know where you came from and what brought you here.

My great anxiety is that there's nobody out there and I'm shouting into the wind. If you’re feeling like you want to comment with something, feel free to comment with what feels good and comfortable to you, whether that’s leaving a !!! or an essay. If you don't have the spoons for any comment, that's okay, too. No pressure, no obligations.

How I reply to comments:

* I mostly try to reply to comments.
* I normally try to reply to comments as soon after they arrive as I can.
* My comments might try to elicit more discussion and longer-form commentary. I like discussions. But sometimes I don't know what to say in response.
* You are never obligated to reply to a reply, nor to write longer-form than you wish.
* If you would like a response to a comment, I encourage you to let me know. “I would appreciate a response to this if possible,” etc. is totally fine with me.
* Absentminded. If I have forgotten to reply to something you want a reply to, a poke is totally okay.

Linking to my entries:

* If it’s public, it’s fair game.
* It’s access-locked, ask me.
* Please do not archive my work without asking me first.
* If you do link to me elsewhere, it warms my heart if you tell me where you linked, but it's not a requirement.
* If something I linked or wrote inspired you, it warms my heart if you link me to it. Also not a requirement.

Transformative works:

* Please do. I haven't figured out how I'm Creative Commons licensing the journal as a whole yet, but fanworks of my works are the shiniest thing.


Subscriptions and access:

* If you want to subscribe to me, be welcome!
* I like new subscribers. I also respect access-locks - if something you created is That Awesome, I'll ask for permission before excerpting or posting elsewhere.
* I may not add you back—I tend to evaluate based on what's available on your entries page. If you're mostly access only, it may take some comments or a conversation in a third space before I have an idea of whether I want to subscribe.
* I give access en masse at sporadic intervals, generally to mutual subscribers whose names I've come to recognize. You not having access is not a slight, it's a sign that I don't know you yet, or that I do but haven't thought about giving access to people in a while.

If you have been banned from my journal and still wish to speak to me? Don't.
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[personal profile] ruuger 2014-11-19 08:42 pm (UTC)(link)
Many novels live in my head. Like, we're talking a dozen or so totally different worlds, some of which have multiple novels.

I feel your pain :) In some cases, I have written fanfiction in my head for novels that I haven't written either :D

As for excercise and nutrition, do you read Lifehacker? They have a lot of good tips on both subjects.
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[personal profile] everbright 2014-11-20 01:25 am (UTC)(link)
I'll be cheering for you to keep everything together until the end of the High Stress Period!

RE: meals, you might try The Giant Day-Off Meal, and then just pick at the leftovers for the next few days? I know work and school take up a lot of time, but if you can managed to do like, a roast (or meatloaf) and two veg and a starch on your day off, that can turn into a lot of meals when you realize you're hungry on working days.
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[personal profile] everbright 2014-11-20 06:47 am (UTC)(link)
Valkommen! That's about the shape of it. I am a firm believer in the power of leftovers, and also this is the sort of thing that's effective for some depressed ppl, since you only have to Do The Thing once a week. Er, you might want to invest in some more tupperware-ish type containers tho, you will be storing a lot more little portions all of a sudden.
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[personal profile] edenfalling 2015-02-22 06:05 pm (UTC)(link)
I am a firm believer in cooking A Whole Lot of Something and then eating leftovers for a week or so. Slow cookers are particularly good for this sort of thing, since they remove most of the need to stand over a stove or keep an eye on an oven. You will definitely need a bunch of tupperware containers, though.
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[personal profile] bilqis 2014-11-20 06:37 am (UTC)(link)
Hope you get to your birthday okay, we'll be happy to call you Supergenderqueer! (awesome btw)
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[personal profile] shipwreck_light 2015-03-06 12:35 am (UTC)(link)
May I subscribe to your newsletter? You seem really cool.

If you go look at my journal, it is usually more positive than it is today. I promise!
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[personal profile] shipwreck_light 2015-03-06 01:53 am (UTC)(link)
Awesome! Thank you.

And that's totally cool. World being what it is, I'd say it's a good plan.
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[personal profile] kehleyr 2016-05-19 03:51 pm (UTC)(link)
Enjoyed reading this :-). Also if you feel comfortable I'd love to read about your journey on http://alexkharites.dreamwidth.org/profile :-).
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[personal profile] vass 2016-12-15 05:58 am (UTC)(link)
*waves vaguely* I keep seeing your around and thinking "they seem cool, I should add them," so now I'm doing that.
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[personal profile] we_are_spc 2017-01-05 06:56 pm (UTC)(link)
Haaaiii!

Can we add you? Like just subscribing is fine for now, but you've bene poking around at [personal profile] miintikwa's page for a while, and the consensus here is that we like you. xd

(We're a multiple system-not sure if you have others like us on your page, but if you have questions on how we work/how we came to be, etc, feel free to ask. We don't hide ourselves here as much as we do on other sites, so this is...kinda the place we don't talk about professionally. Being in the health care field has necessitated the separation. For now, anywind.

But yeah, you seem like cool peoples. xd

-Fallon and Rillin~
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[personal profile] clare_dragonfly 2017-01-07 01:33 am (UTC)(link)
It's kind of hard to stay an atheist after having a bunch of knowledge about what a deity wants from one slammed directly into one's brain.

I... kinda know what you mean.

I work for the federal government! I also knit and occasionally read Tarot! You seem like my sort of person.
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[personal profile] fred_mouse 2017-02-28 08:43 am (UTC)(link)
Have seen you around multiple DW places I hang out, but this is the first time I've actually come near your personal journal - you sound like my kind of people, so I've added you. No stress if you aren't in a place to add me back.
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[personal profile] meepettemu 2017-04-10 06:31 pm (UTC)(link)
I found you doing a search on genderqueer and would be interested in adding you if that would be ok?
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[personal profile] meepettemu 2017-04-10 07:09 pm (UTC)(link)

Hiya,

I have no public entries but my general posts are on standard f-lock and more personal ones down from that. It's not a case of 'asking' in that I am offering and would be more than happy to do that- I have been friending recently from 2017revival and thus have a lot of new interactors :)

Your comfort level is your comfort level and I respect that- I just wanted you to know how my DW worked in case that made a difference, and that you would be welcome.

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[personal profile] meepettemu 2017-04-10 07:32 pm (UTC)(link)

Done. Although the tarot has become more of an academic interest of late as I just can't find the time (to do so many things!)

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A meal idea

[personal profile] dialecticdreamer 2017-06-27 03:06 am (UTC)(link)
You mentioned screw-top plastic containers. If they're quart size, there's a dead-easy lunch you can put together assembly line style (ours take less than fifteen minutes, but they take more than five because I'm a bit CDO about food. --CDO is OCD in its proper, alphabetical order. Laugh.)

Okay, pick what you like from-

--a bag of spinach leaves. Shredded cabbage,(usually sold as cole slaw mix) carrots (buy shreds or slices if you really want to cut down on time, but I buy the gorgeous colored carrots from Trader Joe's and take less than a minute to shred.

Open seven one quart plastic containers. No matter what the bags say, rinse the vegetables. Put a handful of each of the above in the bottom of each container.

Now, add some carbs (and more fiber)-
Open a can of your favorite kind of beans, rinse and add a few spoonsful to each container. This is the ONE place where I like those canned ears of baby corn. Water chestnuts need rinsing, but even one or two add a bit of surprise. Jicama shreds are NOM, but you have to do it yourself.

Add some seasonal, fragile stuff like tiny tomatoes, bits of fresh bell pepper, chopped fresh cilantro or basil (go easy, the fresh is awesome but strong!)

Add some more protein: a chopped hardboiled egg, or a small handful of diced cooked chicken breast, or seasoned tofu, pretty much anything will blend with the other flavors.

Are all the jars very nearly full? Goody! Purchased dressing will work, so find one you like and put about two tablespoons into a zip-style snack bag. Tuck that into the top of the jar so the ingredients aren't drowned in dressing. Close lids and stack someplace in the fridge.

Grab and go. Literally! Hubby keeps a spoon, knife and fork in his desk at work and is particularly fond of pulling the salad out in front of coworkers who have gone to Fast Food X --for the billionth time-- because it's the only place within driving distance for the lunch hour which is NOT a sit-down restaurant.

So, open the jar, either open the zip bag or snip a corner at the bottom (what I do), and put the dressing in- use about half of what you expect at first- close the lid, and shake to distribute the dressing.


By the way, hubby, making the same dish, washes the bagged items and rinses the beans, and dumps everything in out giant breadmaking bowl, mixes, then fills the plastic containers. It takes him less than five minutes to make the week's lunches.

I said I was a little CDO about food!
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[personal profile] sylvaine 2017-07-28 12:29 pm (UTC)(link)
I forget - do you have access filters? I need to cut my reading list down some but would like to not unfollow you entirely cuz I like having you around!
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[personal profile] sylvaine 2017-08-02 09:57 am (UTC)(link)
Oh I didn't know you could do that with subscription filters! Sweet, I'll try that, thank you :)
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[personal profile] sylvaine 2017-08-02 07:19 pm (UTC)(link)
Holy shit dude, thanks for the paid time! <3