you won't make yourself a name if you follow the rules

Credit introvertdoodles

Okay, so you feel like total crap. Have you:

☐ refilled your water cup in the past two hours?
   (No? Go drink water.)
☐ eaten in the past four hours?
   (No? Go eat food.)
☐ had tea or coffee in the past six hours?
   (No? Go have caffeine—unless it's too close to sleep time.)
☐ taken all your meds at appropriate times in the past twenty-four hours?
   (No? Make sure to take your meds.)
☐ slept at least seven and a half hours in the past twenty-four hours?
   (No? Go nap.)
☐ made sure your breathing is okay? (Tired is a symptom of not breathing right!)
   (No? Take your inhaler.)
☐ grounded and centered and shielded in the past twenty-four hours?
   (No? Go do those.)
☐ showered in the past twenty-four hours?
   (No? Go shower.)
☐ practiced devotion in the past twenty-four hours?
   (No? Go practice.)
☐ practiced magic in the past twenty-four hours?
   (No? Go practice.)
☐ cleansed with holy water in the past two days?
   (No? Go cleanse.)
☐ done something for the sole purpose of enjoying yourself in the past two days?
   (No? Go have fun.)

☐ been doing too much physically in the past week?
☐ been doing too little physically in the past week?
   (Too much? Go rest. Too little? Get moving.)

☐ been doing too much mentally in the past week?
☐ been doing too little mentally in the past week?
   (Too much? Go rest. Too little? Get moving.)

☐ been doing too much emotionally in the past week?
☐ been doing too little emotionally in the past week?
   (Too much? Go rest. Too little? Get moving.)

☐ been doing too much socially in the past week?
☐ been doing too little socially in the past week?
   (Too much? Go rest. Too little? Get moving.)

☐ been doing too much creatively in the past week?
☐ been doing too little creatively in the past week?
   (Too much? Go rest. Too little? Get moving.)

☐ been doing too much spiritually in the past week?
☐ been doing too little spiritually in the past week?
   (Too much? Go rest. Too little? Get moving.)

☐ been experiencing a flare-up of a chronic condition in the past week?
   (Yes? Go take care of yourself.)

☐ made a todo tada list today?
   (No? Go make one.)
☐ been making progress on changing todos to tadas today?
   (No? Go accomplish things.)

Other references:
Everything Is Awful And I'm Not Okay by eponis
You Feel Like Shit: an interactive self-care guide



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So there are friending memes and things going around and people might see me around and want to get to know me a little! Therefore, this post. (Which is edited from its initial version, because I decided to turn it into my sticky post.)

I am increasingly posting almost everything under lock instead of publicly. I do not particularly care for this change, but certain persons who I do not care to name make it necessary.

I tend to grant access in sporadic batches, after I have got to know people well enough to recognize your respective handles. I realize this is an approach that, in combination with the previous paragraph, makes it difficult to make friends.

A note about journal rules: Don't be ableist. Don't be racist. Don't be sexist or homophobic or transphobic or or or or. I'm not perfect on any of these issues, I admit, but to the best of your ability, keep the bigotry out of my journal.

I am:

( wordy )


( here is my commenting culture )

If you have been banned from my journal and still wish to speak to me? Don't.

So the first chronological Toby Daye story (thus far) by Seanan McGuire, "Rat-Catcher", has a fascinating scene. Cut for spoilers:

( spoilers for the story, anyway. not so much spoilers for the novels. well, maybe a minor spoiler for one of the novels, but I forget which. )

So you probably all know that I'm genderqueer and have so identified for a few years now. A few months back, I got to thinking (possibly even prompted by "Rat-Catcher", though I'm not sure): the name my parents gave me, 'Elizabeth', is an explicitly feminine name. So is the name I chose from that, 'Ellie'. For that matter, so is 'Murasaki'.

I'm only sometimes female. I'm not real feminine. And I'm half Irish by ancestry and not Japanese at all.

'Seanchai' means 'storyteller'. The word is from Ireland, pronounced 'shanachee', with the 'ch' like a 'k' in that Gaelic way, as in 'loch'. 'Alex' is short for 'Alexandria', and I insist the long name (being, y'know, a city, with inhabitants of all genders) is as gender-neutral as the short name, though it is read as feminine as often as I am. Alexandria is of course the city of the famous library, and its name derives from two Greek words: the pertinent one, 'alexo', means 'to defend, help'. I'm keeping the surname I chose, Conall; you may notice that my professional account at elizabethconall is now alexconall. As for the timing, today's my twenty-fifth birthday, which seems an auspicious time for such a change. Also, Yuletide's over.

Elizabeth is gone. Alex is here.

Hover your mouse here.^[*] In related questions (I swear it's related), anyone know how I would go about finding Enochian swear words? DuckDuckGo is unhelpful.

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