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[alexseanchai]

I was googling "quoiromantic" because somebody on Starfriends has that in—okay, I need to figure out Starfriends etiquette for when someone has two pronoun sets in their profile, because I am now totally unsure whether this person is a they or a she; *flips coin*—their profile. (ETA: I asked and the etiquette seems to be that either set works.) And I came across this post on aromanticnerd. Relevant portion (which links elsewhere for further details but that link doornailed):

requiromantic: a label for individuals who experience limited sexual/romantic attraction due to being drained of energy for any variety of reasons. the variety of reasons gets more specific, i know (i believe it’s typically in reference to past abusive relationships or health issues of any sort? other things as well, i’m not the most well versed in this identity)

...is this a real thing? tell me this is a real thing lie if you have to

ETA: fuck it I'm sticking the word in my Starfriends tags. also, I poemed:


"requiromantic, I"

I'd never heard the word before.
And yet it seems to fit:
when romance wanes and waxes by
the strength one has to deal.

Am I aromantic? I—
I fell in love once more
with someone with poetic wit,
but nothing came of it.

I rarely think I should explore
a romance; when I feel
a love begin, I find I'm spry—
this word I think I'll steal.

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[syntaxofthings]

...

that is 100% why I have no romantic life so... please be a real thing.

[alexseanchai]

Sample size of very small is not enough to judge probably, but your recognizing your experience in that paragraph same as me is an encouraging sign for the reality of the thing. That make any sense?

[alatefeline]

I like it! With the proviso that I need to explain them, I really enjoy words like this.

At the moment I would use allosexual and queer. I would additionally use sexual, sensual, tactile-defensive, wtf-romantic, tractive, queer, Aspie, poly, and probably a lot more about other aspects of my identity that intersect with my romance/sex life. I have learned a lot from the work done by some ace and demi writers, as well as kinky and poly folks...

I have encountered 'quioiromantic' as meaning 'fluidly in betweeen / back and forth between / questioning romantic and aromantic tendencies'; I assumed the root was related to the root of 'question'. I would grab 'requiromanci' and run with it, though!

On a not unrelated topic, the pathologization of 'I do not want to do people or sexytimes because I have no spoons' drives me up the wall. As do assumptions about the inherently static nature of attraction. No thank you, I'll be over here being flexible and patient with myself and talking to people about what they actually want.

[alexseanchai]

*shrug* Jargon always needs explaining.

People pathologize that? No, what am I saying, the world is ableist, of course they do.