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[alexseanchai]

Of all the BDSM fanfic in the world, why, why did the one to become a wildly successful origific novel have to be Fifty Shades?

Guess what the ladies at work have been talking about for the past twenty minutes. With much roaring laughter, because apparently it is greatly entertaining that only one of us has actually had sex involving bondage. ("It must be a Jersey thing.") I don't feel it necessary to mention to them that the main reason I haven't is I haven't had any sex, never mind a sexual relationship of enough duration and sufficient trust to explore anything I find sexy in fic.

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[lliira]

This is very true. There isn't anything that's bad to base one's sex fantasies on, imo. And I don't want to scare anyone off from being adventurous; 50 Shades just has me frightened. Because there are already so-called dominant men who are really abusers looking for women who are completely new to the scene and entering because of 50 Shades, which is not a BDSM romance. It's a typical 1970s woman reforms her rapist/abuser romance. Which is fine in fantasy, but now people are thinking that's how it works, and argh.