Is 'agender leaning femme' a contradiction in terms? Or should I keep on calling myself cisgender? I don't mind my biological sex markers, except when my uterus is contorting itself while it sheds its lining (one of these months I have got to get on the Pill), so I'm not neutrois. I doubt I'm third gender, and I am sure as hell neither butch nor male. I've got more'n enough traditional feminine characteristics that anybody looking at me would label me female. I just don't grok gender. Like, at all. I get gender roles—I don't like them, they can go [insert violent imagery of choice], but I get them—and I get male privilege and cis privilege and sexual attraction based on gender markers, but there's more to gender than that and I don't get that. Does that make me agender? But the earrings and the cooking and the long skirts and and. Is that enough to make me femme? And if I'm femme, I'm cisgender, but if I'm agender, I fall under the umbrella of genderqueer.
In short, am I trying to take some lack-of-privilege cookies that aren't mine to take, or am I clinging to privilege that (for lack of a better way to describe this) isn't mine to keep?
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